The Power of Being in the Room
Why Young Women Need Access to Informal Networks in Today's Workplace
In my 30 years in politics and government, one truth has shaped my career: being in the room matters. Early on, I had the privilege of observing trailblazing women—leaders who broke barriers and led with courage, authenticity, and grace. Simply witnessing their decision-making and leadership taught me lessons no formal training or textbook could replicate.
I learned by watching them tackle tough decisions, navigate challenges, and advocate for change in real time. They didn’t just talk about leadership—they embodied it. Those moments left a lasting impact on me, and they’re the reason I’m so passionate about creating opportunities for today’s young women to access similar experiences.
The Magic of Informal Networks
When I began my career, mentorship wasn’t a formal program or a scheduled meeting. It happened in the “in-between” moments—quick chats in hallways, impromptu conversations after meetings, or sharing thoughts over coffee. These spontaneous interactions weren’t just casual exchanges; they were profound learning opportunities where ideas, advice, and encouragement flowed freely.
These informal networks allowed me to ask questions, observe leadership in action, and absorb the wisdom of women who had paved the way. They taught me lessons that shaped my career in ways no structured training ever could.
The Risk of Isolation in Remote Work
Today, young women face a workplace that’s fundamentally different. Remote and hybrid work have brought welcome flexibility but have also stripped away those organic, unplanned moments of connection. Without “water cooler” conversations or the chance to be in the room with mentors, young professionals are missing out on crucial opportunities for growth.
In this digital-first environment, much of the in-the-moment learning—watching how decisions are made, how challenges are handled, and how leadership is demonstrated—is harder to come by. The socio-professional isolation created by remote work can leave young women disconnected from the informal networks that are so vital to career development.
Bridging the Gap for Today’s Young Women
As I reflect on the women who shaped my career, I feel an urgency to ensure the next generation has access to the same opportunities to learn, grow, and lead. The challenge is clear: how do we bridge the gap between today’s virtual work realities and the rich, intergenerational networks that have always been a foundation for women’s leadership?
Making Connections That Matter
As I reflect on the women who shaped my career, I feel an urgency to ensure the next generation has access to the same opportunities to learn, grow, and lead. The challenge is clear: how do we bridge the gap between today’s virtual work realities and the rich, intergenerational networks that have always been a foundation for women’s leadership?
Reach Out
Reach out to people whose journeys inspire you. A simple message asking for advice can open the door to a meaningful relationship.
Attend Events
Whether virtual or in-person, events are spaces where ideas and inspiration flow. Conferences, seminars, and workshops offer opportunities to connect with peers and leaders face-to-face.
Join Professional Networks
Networks like The Iron Network focus on intergenerational mentorship and shared learning. These spaces foster genuine connections, providing both guidance and the chance to share your own experiences.
Advocate for Face-to-Face Connections
Virtual tools have their place, but nothing replaces the power of being physically present. Advocate for in-person meetings, join pop-up events, or even organize your own gathering to create spaces for real connection
The Takeaway
The lessons I learned by simply being in the room with exceptional women shaped me into the leader I am today. Those unscripted, deeply human moments of connection and mentorship were transformative—and they can be for the next generation, too.
Let’s work to ensure that young women have the opportunities to learn, grow, and thrive—not just behind a screen, but in the room where it happens.
